Sisters In Sobriety

Sobriety Together: Navigating Relationships in Recovery

Welcome to an uplifting episode of "Sisters in Sobriety"! Your hosts, Sonia and Kathleen, are here to sprinkle some fun and wisdom into the discussion of sobriety and relationships. They're bringing their own brand of humor and heartfelt advice to help you navigate the world of love and friendship without alcohol. Whether you're single, dating, or in a long-term relationship, this episode is all about finding joy and connection in sober living.Today, Sonia and Kathleen are diving into some of the big questions that come up when alcohol is no longer the third wheel in your relationships. How does becoming sober change your dating life? What happens to friendships when you're the only one not drinking? They'll tackle these questions with a mix of personal stories and listener experiences, making sure to keep the conversation light-hearted yet insightful.Get ready to walk away with some tangible advice and a fresh perspective on sober socializing. Our hosts will share their top tips for navigating social gatherings alcohol-free, maintaining meaningful connections, and even enhancing relationships with honesty and vulnerability. It's all about embracing the positives that come with a sober lifestyle and how it can lead to deeper, more authentic relationships.In our personal story segment, Sonia and Kathleen open up about their own journeys through sobriety and how it's impacted their romantic and platonic relationships. They'll share the laughs, the awkward moments, and the heartwarming realizations they've had along the way. It's a candid look at the ups and downs of navigating love and friendship while staying true to your sober self.This is "Sisters in Sobriety," your friendly neighborhood podcast for keeping life fun and fulfilling in sobriety. For more stories, laughs, and tips, be sure to check out our substack. Highlights[1:19] Sonia shares her personal struggles with relationships and sobriety.[1:44] Discussion on how sobriety changes relationship dynamics.[2:20] Kathleen highlights the positive impacts of sobriety on relationships.[00:03:10] Kathleen, as a couple's therapist, discusses the significant impact of substance abuse on relationships.[00:04:11] Sonia reflects on the alignment of behavior with values in sober relationships.[00:05:10] Examination of how different types of drinkers impact their relationships.[00:06:08] Sonia's personal experience of alcohol's role in her early relationship.[00:07:17] Kathleen shares how her drug use affected her past relationships.[00:08:24] Discussion on how socializing changes post-sobriety.[00:09:33] Challenges of being in social situations where others are drinking.[00:10:47] Importance of communication in adjusting to a partner's sobriety.[00:11:38] Discussion on how sobriety impacts communication in conflicts.[00:12:42] Insights into how sobriety affects intimacy in relationships.[00:14:12] Exploring personal growth in sobriety within a relationship.[00:15:11] The role of self-awareness in understanding the impact of sobriety on relationships.[00:16:57] Sonia's experience with personal growth and sobriety during the pandemic.[00:18:29] How creative outlets like photography and writing helped Sonia in her sobriety journey.[00:19:45] Sonia's ex-partner's reaction to her sobriety and the end of their relationship.[00:20:31] Strategies for finding new sober-friendly activities as a couple.[00:21:19] Effective communication strategies for couples in sobriety.[00:23:31] Steps to rebuild trust in a relationship affected by addiction.[00:25:16] Coping with feelings of betrayal in a relationship with a recovering addict.[00:26:52] Preparing for and handling potential relapses in a partner's recovery.[00:29:51] Addressing challenges with intimacy and trust rebuilding in sober relationships.[31:03]: Supporting a partner through addiction and sobriety, and the potential for sobriety to bring partners closer.LinksSisters In Sobriety Substack - find more tips, tricks, resources, and communitySisters In Sobriety Email Sonia's EverBlume WebsiteSonia’s EverBlume InstagramKathleen’s Website *Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast*Kathleen’s Instagram
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True North: Navigating Values on the Sober Journey

Get ready for a heart-to-heart on something we all think about but rarely chat about – our personal values! In this episode of "Sisters in Sobriety," your hosts Sonia and Kathleen are here to be your guides in a lively discussion. They'll help us uncover how our values can change and grow, especially through the ups and downs of sobriety. It's all about finding what truly matters to you and how it can light up your life in the most unexpected ways.So, what's on the table today? We're diving into all things values – those little nuggets that steer our lives. Ever wondered how our values shape who we are, especially when life throws us a curveball like sobriety? How do we even figure out what our true values are, and what happens when they clash with what others expect of us? Sonia and Kathleen are ready to tackle these big questions with a mix of humor and heart.In today's chat, you're not just listening; you're taking away some real gems to think about. We're breaking down how to spot your core values and why they're the secret sauce to making choices that really feel right. There's a little bit of soul-searching, a sprinkle of psychology, and a whole lot of real talk about how our values shift and grow, especially through the journey of recovery.Sonia opens up about her own rollercoaster ride – from chasing what she thought she should value to discovering what truly makes her heart sing. She recounts her journey from adopting externally imposed values, such as success and financial achievement, to discovering and embracing her true values during her sobriety journey.  It's a story many of us can relate to, full of twists, turns, and those lightbulb moments that change everything.Join Sisters in Sobriety on Substack for exclusive access to practical worksheets, insightful tips and tricks, and a supportive community00:02:00 | Importance of listening to one's body and slowing down00:03:00 | Taking steps to minimize stress and prioritize self-care00:05:00 | Importance of defining personal values00:06:00 | Definition of values as guiding principles00:08:00 | Practical ways to define values through reflection and introspection00:09:00 | Using a peak experience exercise to identify values00:10:00 | Utilizing worksheets to explore and choose values00:11:00 | Benefits of having defined values as a guiding force00:12:00 | Personal values as a north star for decision making and life direction00:12:41 | Freedom and courage as core values00:13:18 | The changing meaning of courage00:14:00 | James Baldwin quote: "Nothing can be changed until it is faced"00:15:00 | Reflection on values before sobriety00:16:00 | The emptiness of pursuing values without a why00:17:00 | Struggling with values and feeling unfulfilled00:18:00 | The shift in values after getting sober00:19:00 | Embracing values that don't align with ourselves00:20:00 | Reasons for adopting values from others00:21:00 | The impact of cultural, societal, and familial values00:22:00 | The value of money and its impact on self-worth00:23:00 | Reflecting on past luxury vacations00:24:00 | The importance of time and meaningful gestures00:24:13 | Giving time vs. giving money00:26:00 | Changing values in relationships00:26:36 | Reflecting on past values00:27:22 | How values affected relationships00:28:00 | Sobriety as a catalyst for value shift00:29:00 | Divorce as a reflection of values00:30:00 | Aligning values with authentic self00:31:00 | Techniques to define values00:32:00 | Shifting values over time00:33:00 | Reflecting on inherited valuesLinksSisters In Sobriety Substack - find more tips, tricks, resources, and communitySisters In Sobriety Email Sonia's EverBlume WebsiteSonia’s EverBlume InstagramKathleen’s Website *Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast*Kathleen’s Instagram
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Imperfectly Sober: Embracing Self-Compassion to Navigate Recovery

In this episode of Sisters in Sobriety, Kathleen and Sonia discuss the importance of self-compassion in sobriety and everyday life. They explore the concept of self-compassion, its role in personal growth, and practical tips for implementing self-compassion practices. The conversation highlights the need to treat oneself with kindness, understanding, and forgiveness, and how self-compassion can lead to healthier relationships and boundaries. The episode emphasizes the power of self-compassion in overcoming setbacks and embracing one's humanity.In today's discussion, we tackle essential questions: How do we define self-compassion in the context of recovery? What makes it different from self-indulgence or self-pity? Sonia and Kathleen explore these themes, delving into the psychology behind self-compassion and its impact on healing and growth. They discuss how self-compassion can be a transformative tool in the recovery journey, helping individuals to overcome setbacks and build resilience.Listeners will gain a deeper understanding of key concepts such as the balance between self-compassion and accountability, the role of mindfulness in recognizing self-critical thoughts, and strategies for nurturing a compassionate inner voice. These insights are grounded in real-life experiences and psychological principles, providing listeners with practical and empathetic approaches to integrating self-compassion into their recovery process.Sonia and Kathleen share their own experiences with self-compassion in their sobriety journey and the challenges and victories in practicing self-kindness.By the end of the episode, listeners will have a richer understanding of self-compassion's role in recovery, equipped with strategies and insights to apply in their own journey toward healing and growth. This is Sisters in Sobriety, a podcast brought to you by EverBlume, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Highlights:00:03:45 | Definition of self-compassion and its importance in sobriety00:05:11 | The struggle of practicing self-compassion00:06:00 | Reflecting on the definition of self-compassion00:07:00 | Viewing mistakes as learning opportunities00:08:00 | Implementing self-compassion and self-care00:09:00 | Importance of forgiveness and understanding in self-compassion00:09:52 | Overcoming self-loathing and trying again00:10:06 | Personal meaning of self-compassion00:09:55 | Questioning the point of trying again after making mistakes00:10:30 | Differentiating between self-pity and self-compassion00:11:13 | Allowing oneself to feel emotions without self-criticism00:12:00 | Taking responsibility without placing blame00:14:41 | Recognizing the significance of self-compassion in life00:16:00 | Understanding accountability in relationships00:19:10 | Setting boundaries based on self-compassion00:20:02 | Identifying and enforcing hard no's in relationships00:20:54 | The importance of self-compassion in relationships00:21:48 | The role of mindfulness in self-compassion00:22:46 | Practical tips for cultivating self-compassion00:25:00 | The significance of self-compassion in sobriety00:30:00 | The challenge of practicing self-compassion00:32:00 | Understanding the humanness and collective nature of self-compassion00:32:20 | None of us are perfect, showing compassion to ourselvesLinks:Sisters In Sobriety | EverBlume WebsiteSisters In Sobriety | EverBlume InstagramSisters In Sobriety | EverBlume Email Kathleen’s Website *Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast*Kathleen’s LinkedInKathleen’s Instagram
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Building a Sober Self-Care Toolkit: Reclaiming Joy Through Boundaries and Wellness

Welcome to "Sisters in Sobriety," where hosts Sonia and Kathleen dive into the vital topic of self-care, especially in the context of sobriety. Your hosts Sonia and Kathleen explore the essential theme of self-care in sobriety. In today’s episode, they will guide you, our dear listeners, through understanding and implementing self-care practices that nurture your mental, emotional, and physical well-being.In this episode, they delve into pressing questions. They take self-care beyond the conventional ideas of relaxation. What role does self-care play in the journey of sobriety? And how can self-care practices evolve and adapt to life’s changes?You'll learn about the critical aspects of self-care, including the importance of setting boundaries, the challenge of finding joy in activities outside of alcohol, and the significance of community and support in maintaining sobriety.Get ready for a personal story segment, where Sonia and Kathleen share their own experiences with self-care. They discuss how their self-care practices have evolved over the years, especially in relation to their sobriety journey.This is "Sisters in Sobriety," a podcast brought to you by EverBlume, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol.0:01:24 | Definition of self-care as caring for mental, emotional, and physical health00:03:00 | Importance of self-care in recovery and creating a safe environment00:03:26 | Importance of self-care tools and routines for sobriety00:05:01 | Implementing self-care through setting boundaries and removing toxic people00:05:56 | Self-care as treating oneself with love and nurturing00:06:39 | Reparenting oneself and talking to oneself with kindness and compassion00:07:00 | Challenging negative self-talk and body image issues00:09:44 | Self-care practice of looking in the mirror and expressing self-love00:09:58 | Kathleen reflects on her journey of self-care and sobriety.00:13:23 | Sonia shares her self-care journey and the importance of being authentic.00:15:00 | Sonia discusses the importance of listening to her inner voice.00:17:00 | Kathleen explains how therapy is a form of self-care.00:18:52 | Sonia acknowledges that self-care doesn't always feel amazing.00:19:34 | Kathleen discusses the emotional impact of therapy sessions.00:20:47 | Setting boundaries in self-care.00:23:00 | Importance of "doing nothing" as self-care.00:24:00 | Struggles with prioritizing rest and relaxation.00:27:00 | Evolution of self-care routine over the past years.00:29:00 | Finding connection in the sober community.00:30:00 | Importance of sober community in sobriety journey.00:31:00 | Challenges of having a spouse or friends who drink.00:32:00 | Setting clear boundaries around alcohol and prioritizing sobriety.00:33:45 | Developing a support network and expressing gratitude for support.00:36:26 | Self-care doesn't always feel good in the moment.Links:Sisters In Sobriety | EverBlume WebsiteSisters In Sobriety | EverBlume InstagramSisters In Sobriety | EverBlume Email Kathleen’s Website *Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast*Kathleen’s LinkedInKathleen’s Instagram
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Sobriety’s Ripple Effect: Changes You Didn’t See Coming

In this episode of "Sisters in Sobriety," Sonia and Kathleen dive into the often unexpected twists and turns that accompany the journey of sobriety. They'll guide you through understanding the far-reaching impacts of choosing a sober lifestyle, revealing both the challenges and triumphs that come with this significant life change.This episode poses critical questions: What changes, both anticipated and surprising, occur when one adopts a sober lifestyle? How does sobriety affect relationships, personal values, and daily routines? The conversation delves into these aspects, exploring how sobriety can reshape one's life, identity, and interactions with others.You will gain insights into the complex interplay between sobriety and personal development. The episode highlights how sobriety can lead to a deeper understanding of one’s values, the importance of coping mechanisms, and the impact of sobriety on physical and mental health. These educational takeaways provide a comprehensive view of the transformative journey of sobriety.Sonia shares her personal story of sobriety, detailing how it led to significant changes in her relationships and self-perception. This segment provides a heartfelt glimpse into the realities of navigating life's changes while maintaining sobriety, offering listeners both inspiration and relatable experiences.This is "Sisters in Sobriety," a podcast brought to you by EverBlume, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol.00:00:00 | Introduction to the podcast and topic of discussion00:00:12 | Discussion about Christmas celebrations00:01:51 | Importance of being organized and sticking to routines00:02:33 | Conversation about expectations people have of sobriety00:04:00 | Introduction to the challenges and unexpected changes in sobriety00:05:00 | Detrimental effects of high expectations on sobriety00:06:00 | Advice for those considering sobriety and managing expectations00:08:00 | Importance of ongoing effort and seeking support in recovery00:09:00 | Discussion about the reality of sobriety compared to expectations00:10:00 | Personal experiences and surprises in sobriety revealed00:10:37 | Disappointment with using alcohol to numb emotions during divorce00:11:21 | Realization that sobriety is an ongoing process00:11:50 | Unexpected loss of friends due to sobriety00:12:47 | Underestimation of shame and emotional impact of sobriety00:16:10 | Physical benefits of sobriety, such as increased energy and better sleep00:17:21 | Positive surprises of sobriety, including more free time and discovering new hobbies00:19:27 | Transformation of relationships, health, and daily routine through sobriety00:21:34 | Need for therapy and treatment of anxiety and depression00:21:55 | Whole world opening up through the process of transformation00:21:55 | Transformation process and its impact on relationships, health, and routine00:23:30 | Self-medicating mental health issues and addiction00:25:22 | Physical improvements after quitting alcohol00:26:28 | Possibility of transferring addiction to other areas00:28:00 | Addressing underlying issues and having support to prevent addiction transfer00:30:00 | Importance of daily routine and habits for relief00:32:19 | Mixed impact of sobriety on relationships00:33:00 | Shift in values as a result of clarity00:33:24 | Desire to help others get sober and embrace second chances00:34:34 | Transformation and growth in sobriety00:35:20 | Lifestyle incompatibility led to growing apart and abrupt separation for Sonia00:36:12 | Experiencing pain and feeling alienated by partner's new lifestyle00:38:00 | Importance of valuing and supporting sobriety in relationships00:38:59 | Changes in values and the impact on relationships in sobriety00:39:46 | Difficulty reconciling personal growth with partner's choices00:40:52 | Negative effects on relationships due to lifestyle differences and emotional changes00:42:53 | Challenges in relationships due to different priorities and codependency00:44:00 | Realization that sobriety reveals true values and identity[00:45:28] | Fear of sharing narrative about husband leaving due to sobriety[00:45:45] | Reframing the reason for the marriage ending[00:46:10] | Values were revealed and not in alignment[00:46:29] | Acceptance became easier after realizing the misalignment in valuesLinks:Sisters In Sobriety | EverBlume WebsiteSisters In Sobriety | EverBlume InstagramSisters In Sobriety | EverBlume Email Kathleen’s Website *Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast*Kathleen’s LinkedInKathleen’s Instagram
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Dry January Tips, Tales, and Mocktail Tastes

In today’s episode, we dive into the timely topic of “Dry January” - a month dedicated to abstaining from alcohol. Kathleen will share her inspiring journey, emphasizing how a period of abstinence from drugs was the catalyst for her sobriety, and the unique challenges that alcohol presented due to its social acceptance.Sonia will explore the various drinking patterns and the importance of recognizing when alcohol may be more than just a casual habit. We'll unpack the importance of medical advice, seeking further abstinence, and finding the right support systems. Kathleen reminds us to do our research and reflects on her all-or-nothing approach to life's indulgences, sharing how an eight-week cleanse from substances dramatically shifted her perspective.We will chat about the benefits that come with a break from booze: the joys of waking up clear-headed, the potential for weight loss, and the overall boost to your health and relationships. But it's not all smooth sailing, as we'll also talk about the potential for a pendulum swing back to binge drinking.We don't just theorize. We are also putting our taste buds to the test with a couple of mocktail reviews. Will the complex flavor profile of the St. James 101 bitter aperitif spritz win the day, or will the fruity notes of the Hiyo peach mango drink with natural nootropics and adaptogens come out on top? Kathleen and I have our opinions, and we're excited to sip and share.So, grab your favorite non-alcoholic beverage, and let's explore the ins and outs of Dry January together. Maybe you'll be inspired to join the movement or simply gain a deeper understanding of your own relationship with alcohol.And as always, we welcome your stories and insights. Be sure to find us on social media and let's continue the conversation. Ready? Let's get into it!0:01:48 | Explanation of dry January and its benefits0:03:20 | Tips and strategies for starting dry January0:05:12 | Importance of reflection and goal-setting for dry January0:06:14 | Questions to ask oneself during dry January0:07:10 | Personal experiences with periods of abstinence0:08:02 | Challenges and triggers for going back to drinking0:09:44 | Factors influencing the decision to drink or be abstinent0:12:06 | Possible outcomes of dry January: positive and negative[0:12:47] | Epic return to drinking after abstinence discussed[0:14:08] | Positive effects of abstinence: improved sleep, weight loss, better skin, improved relationships[0:15:32] | Different experiences during dry January: some find it easy, others struggle[0:16:09] | Kathleen's experience with abstinence from drugs and alcohol[0:18:00] | Can't go a month without drinking: possible problematic drinking[0:19:20] | Various unhealthy patterns of drinking discussed[0:19:40] | Recommendations for those concerned about their relationship with alcohol[0:22:23] | Reflection and mindfulness during abstinence[0:23:24] | Discussion on the potential of dry January as a gateway to sobriety0:25:14 | Kathleen describes the Sir James 101 Spritz beverage 0:25:36 | Kathleen and Sonia discuss the complexity and refreshing nature of the drink.0:26:13 | They agree that the drink would be suitable for ordering at a bar.0:27:14 | Kathleen rates the likelihood of recommending the drink as 8 or 9 out of 10.0:28:23 | They try the Hiyo peach mango drink and discuss its taste and ingredients.0:30:00 | Kathleen mentions the marketing of the drink towards people living a sober lifestyle.0:31:23 | Sonia rates the likelihood of recommending the drink between 5 and 8 out of 10.0:32:09 | Kathleen expresses that she would not consider the Hiyo peach mango drink a mocktail.0:32:16 | They conclude that the Sir James 101 Spritz is the winner.Links:EverBlume WebsiteEverBlume InstagramEverBlume Email - info@joineverblume.comSonia’s LinkedInKathleen’s Website *Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast*Kathleen’s LinkedInKathleen’s Instagram
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Sober Holidays: Surviving & Thriving Through Christmas

Hey there, lovely listeners! It's that time of the year again, and Sonia and Kathleen are here to chat about the glitter and tinsel of the holiday season, all while keeping our glasses alcohol-free. They’re sharing our own stories and tips on how to stay sober and joyful during this festive time.The holidays can be a jolly jumble of joy and stress, right? From the aroma of mulled cider to the clinking of glasses, we're surrounded by cheerful temptations. But fear not, they’ve got some tricks up our sleeves to stay on the merry path of sobriety. They'll delve into those sneaky triggers, like the endless parties, the sometimes overwhelming family gatherings, and even those off-hand comments from Uncle Joe about why you're not having a drink.Mindfulness is our holiday mantra. They're talking about staying present and savoring each moment, whether it's the twinkle of Christmas lights or the laughter of friends, all without that extra glass of eggnog. And let's not forget about those surprise triggers that pop up like unannounced carolers. They've both been there and will share how they learned to navigate these situations with grace and a good sense of humor.Setting boundaries is like wrapping yourself in a cozy blanket. They discuss why it's okay to say no to certain events or to step away for a bit of quiet time. It's all about taking care of you.Lastly, they chat about creating new traditions that don't center around alcohol. From festive mocktails to winter walks, there are so many ways to celebrate that keep the spirit high and the spirits low.As a special treat they have a review of two alcohol-free bellinis - Cipriani White Peach Bellini and Mingle Blackberry Hibiscus Bellini!Join them as they laugh, share, and sip a mocktail or two!  Let's make this holiday season one filled with warmth, connection, and sober celebrations! This is Sisters in Sobriety, a podcast brought to you by EverBlume, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Highlights:0:30 | Reasons why the holiday season can be difficult for those avoiding alcohol3:14 | How mindfulness can help with triggers4:47 | Unexpected triggers during the holidays5:58 | Kathleen's struggles during her first sober holiday8:54 | Sonia's struggles during her first sober holiday10:37 | Sonia's epic drunken Christmas fail in 200712:18 | Triggers for binge drinking during the holidays13:36 | Coping mechanisms and setting boundaries to avoid binging16:37 | How to stay sober when you’re having a tough year17:26 | Importance of showing up and using your tools for sobriety20:00 | Creating new traditions during holidays21:17 | Seeking support wherever you can get it23:32 | Alcohol-free alternatives 25:00 | The need to address isolation and seek support if feeling isolated.25:23 | Having a plan before entering difficult situations is crucial.25:50 | The importance of having a plan to stay sober on New Year's Eve.26:00 |  A review of 2 Christmas Bellinis!Links:EverBlume WebsiteEverBlume InstagramEverBlume Email - info@joineverblume.comSonia’s LinkedInKathleen’s Website *Kathleen does not endorse any products mentioned in this podcast*Kathleen’s LinkedInKathleen’s Instagram
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Being There Every Step of The Way: Finding Support in Sobriety

At the heart of every sobriety journey, there is a support community. Be it friends, family, or regular community groups… We all get by with a little help! So in this episode of Sisters in Sobriety, Sonia and Kathleen discuss what true support looks like in sobriety, and how to find it. As with everything else in sobriety, support is personal; there is no one size fits all solution. So today, Kathleen and Sonia will cover key questions to help you identify your needs: can friends and family be your main support system? What should you do if they’re not helping? What’s the difference between AA and other support communities? Is it normal to feel really uncomfortable in a group setting? And perhaps most importantly: what are the signs that you have found your people? Throughout this episode, you will hear about different types of support systems, from in-person groups, to online communities. You will learn how accountability and story-telling can help your recovery, and understand better the difference between coaching and therapy. Last but not least, your hosts will be sharing the fourth and final chapter of their personal story of growth, family and sobriety. Previously, Sonia and Kathleen have told you about their youth, how they became sober, and supported each other through thick and thin. Now, they share how divorce and grief can still lead to a perfect moment, made of undying strength, new life trajectories, and a whole lot of family love. You will hear it at every turn: it takes a village to stay sober in a very non-sober world. This is Sisters in Sobriety, a podcast brought to you by EverBlume, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Highlights:What does a sobriety support system look like? (2:05)Finding support through big life transitions (3:48)How Kathleen became a life coach and psychotherapist (5:20)When Sonia’s sobriety broke her marriage (6:23)How Sonia’s system helped her maintain sobriety during her divorce (7:33)“I was with her every step of the way”: support seen from the other side (8:44)Hearing people’s stories to find motivation (10:07)Sobriety support comes in many shapes and sizes (11:24)Understanding the different types of sobriety groups (12:40)What’s the difference between therapy and coaching? (13:47)Signs that a group is right for you (16:55)How Sonia got the idea of EverBlume (19:05)Becoming a recovery coach and kicking business into action! (20:36)What EverBlume looks like today (22:18)Back to present time: “You stick together, you get stronger” (23:12)How to recognise that you need additional support (24:53)Accountability as a tool in recovery (27:58)A slip doesn’t mean you are back to square one (29:20)The role of friends and family in sobriety support (30:35)What your close circle should not do (33:36)Kathleen and Sonia’s personal takeaways (35:00)Links:EverBlume WebsiteEverBlume InstagramSonia’s LinkedInKathleen’s WebsiteKathleen’s LinkedInKathleen’s Instagram
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Embracing Who You Really Are: Reaching Emotional Sobriety

You’ve heard of early sobriety, you’ve felt the very real changes of physical sobriety… But have you come across “emotional sobriety” yet? No? Well this is your chance to learn! Welcome back to Sisters in Sobriety, the podcast that talks about sobriety, addiction and everything in between. In this new episode, Kathleen and Sonia discuss the somewhat elusive, yet life-transforming concept of “emotional sobriety”. And if you’re not sure what that means; worry not! Today, Sonia and Kathleen help you figure out what emotional sobriety might look like for you. They also give you the tools you need to reframe your emotional mindset, acquire better coping mechanisms… And make your white-knuckling days feel like a distant nightmare! As they discuss their own experiences with emotional sobriety, Kathleen and Sonia will also wonder: Do you have to be emotionally sober all the time? What happens if you’re not? How can you change your approach to sobriety with new routines, and mindful practices? What are the signs that you might be losing your balance in sobriety? And how can you turn the hard times into the stuff that keeps you going?As they walk you through these delicate questions, Kathleen and Sonia also share a new chapter in their personal story of growth, as sisters-in-law and sisters in sobriety! Today, they tell you how they came together as a family, and stood side by side, through the good times and the bad. Brace yourself for an episode rich with emotions, and life-long lessons. This is Sisters in Sobriety, a podcast brought to you by EverBlume, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Highlights:Defining “emotional sobriety” (1:46)Emotional sobriety as a very personal thing (3:25)Sonia’s first steps towards emotional sobriety (6:28)From “white knuckling it” to finding support in recovery (7:45)When Kathleen becomes a mom…  (9:24)…And Sonia, an auntie (again!) (10:32)Sonia’s first sober vacation: learning to trust yourself again (12:12)Kathleen and Sonia become family (13:50)Learning to practice emotional sobriety (15:57)Kathleen’s day-to-day meditation tips (18:14)“Turning pain into purpose” (20:36)A fateful holiday to Hawaii (22:14)The end of a marriage (26:00)Navigating significant relationships through a divorce (28:33)When relapse feels like grief (29:36)Being “dry drunk”: how emotional sobriety plays into relapse (31:31)Signs you might not be emotionally sober (32:35)How to encourage someone to work on their emotional sobriety? (36:03)“One minute at a time” (38:20)Sonia and Kathleen’s personal takeaways (40:14) Links:EverBlume WebsiteEverBlume InstagramEverBlume EmailSonia’s LinkedInKathleen’s WebsiteKathleen’s LinkedInKathleen’s Instagram
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Like a Turtle Without a Shell: Stepping Into Early Sobriety

In today’s episode of Sisters in Sobriety, Kathleen and Sonia talk about early sobriety, a chapter of your journey that will come with many changes! From new physical sensations, to heightened senses, early sobriety is a time for reset, and stripping your mental health to the bones.So today, your hosts help you navigate this period of vulnerability and sober reinvention. For both Sonia and Kathleen, early sobriety was synonymous with vivid new emotional experiences and personal reckonings. So they’ll set out to answer the questions you might be pondering yourself: is quitting alcohol a “once and for all” kind of business? Or is moderate drinking an option? How to minimize situations that trigger cravings? How to continue socializing without drinking? What happens if you slip? Do you have to call that “relapse”? And during this transition, what does a good support system look like? Let Kathleen and Sonia walk you through your first steps into sobriety, as you get acquainted with a whole new alcohol-free life! Throughout the episode, you’ll hear about healthier coping mechanisms, sober routines, mindfulness techniques, goal-setting and sobriety support networks. This week, you will also hear the second chapter of Kathleen and Sonia's personal story of growth! Last episode, they told you about their early adult years, and Kathleen’s life-changing “rehab” experience. Today, join them again on their journey of family and sobriety, as they tell you how they met! Spoiler alert: Sonia’s brother had something to do with it. But there was still a long way to become family.This is Sisters in Sobriety, a podcast brought to you by EverBlume, the support community that helps women change their relationship with alcohol. Highlights:Defining early sobriety (1:30)Kathleen’s first dry date (4:53)Sonia on her brother’s sobriety (7:01)When Kathleen meets Sonia (9:04)A whirlwind romance (10:52)Understanding the goal of early sobriety (12:19)What a healthier lifestyle looks like (15:12)Why the “all or nothing” method does not work (16:25)The ins and outs of seeking professional help (18:00)“Triggers are everything” - how to renew your social environments (20:11)When Kathleen’s engagement wreaks havoc (22:09)Drinking to cope with family feuds (24:18)How to host a sober wedding (24:59)Connecting as a family: when Kathleen gets pregnant (26:06)Sonia’s early thoughts on sobriety (29:03)What to do on a hard day (30:13)Why a slip carries valuable information (32:39)The role of self-compassion in a slip (33:56)Boundaries and a support system: your barrier against a slip (35:32)Personal takes on milestones and anniversaries (36:50)Sonia and Kathleen’s personal takeaways (38:34)  Links:EverBlume WebsiteEverBlume InstagramSonia’s LinkedInKathleen’s WebsiteKathleen’s LinkedInKathleen’s Instagram
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